Things were tricky from the get go. I can�t say it is the Swedish parents of the kids at Little Swede�s pre-school, because most of the kids there are �mutts� like mine (half Swede, half something else), but the parents at this pre-school just don�t talk to each other. Now I am shy, and appreciate the Swedish attitude of �don�t feel obliged to talk to anyone as it�s not necessary and often uncomfortable� most of the time because I am naturally shy and totally an INFJ on the Myers Briggs scale (which might explain why I like it here so damn much). But even I think saying �hi� to people who you have something in common with like �hey our kids go to the same school� is a nice touch and not a social burden.
But fine. The parents maybe mutter out a little hello, if forced. Some insist on staring at the ground and pretending that they just didn�t hear you. And thus I was pretty terrified of how we would breech the whole �Hey my kid wants to play with your kid, can we make a play date?� subject. I mean Little Swede plays with the neighbors, but he LOVES his classmates and asks about them CON-STANT-LY (as 4 year olds are incredibly gifted at doing).
So I agonized over ways to approach some of these �stare at the ground, whatever you do don�t make eye contact� kind of parents. Put a letter in the cubbyhole with our contact information? Try to catch them in person at drop-off/pick-up? Arrange a telephone contact list by pinning a note on the back of the door? Which would be the least antagonistic way to make sure Little Swede could hang out with some friends?
Thankfully before I had to make a decision I received a text message. Apparently that is how you make play dates in Sweden. One of the �stare at the ground� parents was too busy to say hello, but sent a text message implying that her 4 year old was badgering her equally about the need for a playdate, and might we possibly want to come over one day.
Apparently, the tactic she pursued was tracking us down on Gula Sidorna and then sending us a text message. Good to know for the future (although I am willing to shake things up a bit).
I really hope my pre-school is just a bit quirky in this department! How did your kids get Swedish playdates?
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